6.30.2007

Home Almost 2 weeks!

So, we've been home almost two weeks (this Tues. will be 2 wks)...so much has happened...we've been so busy!

The children have met several family and church family and friends. We have found a pediatrician. We go Monday for blood work. The children seem to be more familiar with their surroundings. They seem very proud of their rooms when people come to visit. Still trying to teach the boys how to make their beds. Tatiana does very well and seems to understand many directives given to her concerning daily routine things. They love to "Mamou" - "to go!"

Last night, we had our first surprise shower!!! It was given to us by a group of women I play Bunco with. We got lots of goodies! We were given lots of clothes, money, slip-n-slide, beach buckets & towels, build-a-bear, preschool barrel of monkey game, picture books and frame, learning write & wipe books & more! It was great!

The children especially liked the bats & balls that they were each given! Ben has treked to the neighbor's house at least 5 times today getting balls that have been hit over the fence!!! Ben also set up the slip-n-slide and they loved it...calling it a "Lio" -(a river). He also went to Wal-Mart and got a 2 ft pool. They were in it for hours.

The children love their pets, Ellie & Obba. They can all pronounce the names of the pets. Diego, especially loves them. He gives Obba sloppy kisses and bear hugs! He sat on Ellie yesterday like he was riding a horse. He has no fear! He loves the animals. I can't wait to visit my father. We call him "G-Daddy," and he has several horses that the children will be able to ride!

Andrew looks forward to school; we drove by it last week. I need to talk to the principal next week to make sure they will be able to provide ESL services and register him. We have tried to contact the lawyer to begin the readoption process, but unable to talk to her at this point.

The children are sleeping well at night- all thru the night. They get up really early. I guess the old saying is true, "Early to bed, early to rise..." They get up between 6-630-730 and go to bed around 830. We often pooped at the end of the day and are usually close behind them in retiring for the night...

Well, parenthood has been really busy for us both. It has had many challenges and many triumphs, hearty laughs, and kodak moments...I was driving down the road today thinking about the children, and just began to thank God for giving them to us...God is so good...and we are so blessed!!! They are awesome children! Even in the challenging moments---they are gifts! Thanks to all those who have supported us throughout this process! You'll never know how much you've impacted our lives!

(Tomorrow we go to church for the first time with the children...will we get there on time? Stay tuned for the next post...)

Mi Casa, Su Casa...

We finally arrived at the airport in Mobile where we were met by the children's god parents, G-Mami and G-Papi!

We were told that the children may not adjust well to wearing seatbelts or sitting in car seats. They did great! No complaints, no tears, nothing...

When we arrived at the house...the children knew right where their rooms were from the photos...Tatiana loved the mural painted on her wall and was in awe...the boys especially liked the basketball hoop in the room..and immediately yelled, "Football!" when seeing all the different balls in the room. It was kindof like the ABC Extreme Makeover as we watched them investigate their new home!

G-Mami & G-Papi brought gifts from them and their family to share which included drums for both the boys and Tatiana was given a baby doll. She carried her doll around for days...Diego continues to help her care for the baby! It is so cute!

It was so nice to finally sleep in our own bed! Ahh...sweet sleep!

6.28.2007

It Was A Set-Up!

Has God ever set you up?

That delay...well, as we were waiting at our gate for the flight to Mobile, I noticed another North American family of 5 or 6 who had also travelled from Bogota with us sitting in the same area. I began to talk with them and learned they were missionaries to Brazil!

We talked for a long while. Ben also shared his vision with the husband, and we exchanged information. Another God connection! This could also be a possible outreach of Kingdom Works; to help, encourage, and support this missionary and his family!

God is good...that 3 hours --didn't seem like 3 when we started sharing our passions about our Father!

This family wasn't actually flying into Mobile; they had just come to sit at our gate, because the gate area where they were to be was over-crowded!!! So, tell me that wasn't a God set-up!!!!

More about Our Journey from Mobile Airport to Moss Point, MS in the next posts...

Homeward Bound!

Our stay in Bogota was short...only about 5 days! We flew home on June 19th, stopping first in Atlanta, GA. The plane ride to Atlanta was challenging as Andrew didn't like to sit still for such a lengthy journey...he started crawling under the seats...not funny! We made it....

Tatiana and Andrew sat with me as Diego again, was asleep in Papi's arms! I remember holding the hands of each of the children next to me as we touched American soil...ah...these are my babies...haha, thank you, God... These little hands are going to be history makers!

The Consulate had told us that once the children step on American soil they will be US Citizens!

Getting off the plane from Bogota to Atlanta we thought we would only have a 1.5 hour layover, and after running to rush thru Customs and drop off our Baggage; we waited another 3 hours for our flight to Mobile, AL... due to bad weather and mechanical problems. (BTW, we were very disappointed with the customer service given by Delta employees in Atlanta. We didn't meet any rude people, until we flew back into the States; how very sad and disappointed were we...Some Delta guy was yelling at me to "Drop 'em & go!"--referring to our luggage...obviously, he had never carried a baby, pushed a stroller, and luggage at the same time! HUMPH!)

Let's go-- our flight out of Florencia...

We were more than excited to get out of Florencia, get to Bogota and commune with other English speaking friends and also be able to offer a place for the children to play with other children...

Previous to our flight out, we were in a hotel in Florencia that was nice; it had A/C!!! But it wasn't necessarily kid-friendly...it had a swimming pool, but that was about it. It rained almost everyday, and the children had some cough and congestion so we stayed in the room most of the 11 days...

ICBF staff were great; our interpreter was awesome! And our lawyer even took US (now a family of 5!) out to dinner on him!

Our lawyer and interpreter escorted us to the airport where Diego for some odd reason threw a major tantrum...we got many glares from people walking by...once inside the waiting area, however, Diego was great and loved watching the planes!

The plane to Bogota was small, and Andrew sat with another senorita; she was very helpful in trying to persuade him to keep his seatbelt on...Diego fell asleep in Papi's arms while Tatiana and I flipped thru the photo album and various books.

Once we arrived to Bogota, we were taken to the Refugio Hotel. It is more like a bed and breakfast type place. It was real refreshing to see a couple still there we had met the first day in Colombia...they adopted an infant boy with CHI. They were an awesome Christian couple! The hotel also had great staff that helped with the children, had toys, DVD player with disney movies in Spanish, swingset, and more! There were also other European families there who were in the adoption process so there were lots of children for ours to play with!

Once we got to Bogota, everything was at super speed. On Thursday, that afternoon we went to take passport photos and see the Embassy doctor. The doctor said we were a first. The children were not on their very best behavior to say the least. I believe some of it was our fault and again, the communication barrier with our language differences...

The very next day, Friday, we went to apply for the children's visas. Behavior was muy bueno!!! They were very good! It took about 2-2.5 hours. The representative said we would have to come back on Monday to pick the visas up, because they would not be able to complete them that afternoon. Monday was a holiday and we had feared we would have to wait til Tuesday; so, Monday was good for us!!!

We wanted to do some souvenir shopping, but because of the holiday much of the downtown was closed...Lucia's son, David, did take us and some other families to a museum and one other shop where we learned that 65-70% of the world's emeralds come from Colombia! We bought Tatiana some emeralds for later...we also found some Colombian Soccer Jersey's for the boys...and Ben got some coffee!

Bogota was beautiful and clean. We don't have any reservations about going back there and hope to in the future.

6.24.2007

Special Fun & Interesting Things about Our Oldest Son, Andrew...

  • He likes football.
  • He likes to be tickled.
  • He is smart, and likes to trace his name.
  • He can count to ten in English.
  • He is strong.
  • He likes to help out around the house using his muscles!
  • He can put puzzles together.
  • Loves to watch cartoons!
  • Loves to play outside...

Special Fun & Interesting Things about Tatiana, Our Daughter...

  • She likes to play dress up!

  • She likes to play "Princess!"

  • She likes lip-stick!

  • She likes to have her hair done...

  • She is very protective of her brothers.

  • She is smart!

  • She can count to ten in English!

  • She likes to play in the water!

  • She helps me around the house (making her bed, putting up dirty laundry, picking up toys!)

Special Fun & Interesting things about our youngest, Diego...

  • He makes goofy faces.

  • He loves to eat--almost anything!

  • He loves to bathe or shower & play in the water!

  • When he kisses you, he likes to blow on your face and make funny noises!

  • He is very strong and muscular!

  • He likes to make funny noises while on the potty!

  • He is just silly!

Things I don't want to forget about Florencia...



  • no hot water

  • the hotel room

  • the waiters who learned English for us

  • the welcome from our children on Gotcha Day

  • our interpreter and his family

  • our lawyer

  • crayolas all over the floor

  • the bellows early in the morning from the guy who sold newspapers

  • the horse carriages

  • the poor and needy people

  • the police men and women

  • the poodles

  • the young child who nudged Ben's arm for scraps one night when we were having dinner

  • the children who were displayed on the tv screen announcing if no family found would be put up for adoption

  • the hot and humid days

  • when Ben ate cow tongue soup

  • the taxi cab

  • the Hache' River

  • the different socioeconomic levels (#1-4)

  • the children's parade

  • the maid who handwashed our laundry

  • the ICBF staff that helped us

  • dinner with our lawyer and ICBF where we had REAL onion rings!

  • the longest tantrum yet in the Florencia airport

  • the smiles and excitement when on the plane

  • when all the children hugged and kissed the police and airport personnel and yelled, "Chow!"

6.21.2007

A Week Later...June 10, 2007

Still in Florencia, Ben left the hotel with Carlos and went to an Internet CafĂ© earlier this week and sent email to Pascagoula notifying his mother we were okay and we had limited to no access to the internet and that is the reason there has been no update on the computer. It is unknown who was contacted…our apologies to those who have tried to follow the journey with us as we have been unable to upload info due to no computer access.

A week into parenthood…ey, yah, yai…

Ben and I are ready to get to Bogota; hopefully, return to the Refugio Hotel or Bed and Breakfast. It was really “kid-friendly” and had a back yard for the children to play in. The children are mostly in the room all day long…even though, our room may be half the size or in some cases the size of a casa around here…it is growing increasingly smaller to me!!! We show the children photos of their home in Mississippi trying to explain about their rooms, but I am not certain they understand. I overheard Andrew refer to the hotel room as their casa!!!

Diego has been congested and not sleeping well for the past two days. Andrew vomited 3 times last night. Our interpreter has a friend who is a doctor who we have consulted. I am praying we are going to get better quickly.

Ben took Tatiana and Andrew to lunch with Carlos and his family while I stayed at the hotel with Diego. The children love to ride in the taxi, shop, and leave the room. They give kisses and say, “Chow!” when they leave. They are precious.

Today, Andrew and Tatiana were looking through the photo album and found their “G-Mami” and “G-Papi;” There are several family pics, making it hard for them to distinguish who is who. They refer to several as “Abuelo” or “Abuela”-grandmother or grandfather. They are able to identify “Beamie.” They refer to Bro. Horace as “Abuelo”-Ben and I have been saying “Pastor.”

The children have learned or are repeating more English words such as “cookies,” “good job,” “French fries,” “thank you,” “I love you,” and “Hallelujah.” From time to time, we will hear Andrew or Tatiana sing the “Hallelujah” song.

Ben and I are definitely facing a challenge with the language barrier. I believe it would be so much easier had one of us been able to communicate with the children in Spanish. I do believe it will be easier once the children are in our own environment and culture that we will be able to define or establish the limits or boundaries in more clearer ways. Suggestions to others who are adopting in a Latin American country—learn as much of the language as possible.

Ben also was able to share the gospel with our interpreter and establish good rapport with him. Carlos is involved with a group of people or organization that ministers to homeless or poverty stricken people by providing food and clothing to them as they are available. He took us on a tour of Florencia by taxi. We drove through different sections of the city or town that housed the different socioeconomic levels… He described the sections as 1, 2, 3, or 4; 4, being the richest. We also saw the Hache’ River. This is one of the rivers that people will go and bathe in on Saturdays or Sundays. It is also nearby where the children were born and their birthmother lived. It was interesting to see this area. Carlos explained that this area is often flooded as during the rainy season the river rises, and the people are left homeless in already destitute area. It is interesting to see the area of which I have been praying for at last…to see the people and children who live here…to encounter them. I pray that we leave a spiritual mark on this territory. There are several churches here, also. There is one Pentecostal church; several Catholic churches, and one Mormon Church that we have seen. Who knows, we may come back and do ministry on the Hache’ River…

BTW, most of the clothes we have bought or brought with us are “MUY GRANDE”—the children are very small. Diego can wear a size 2 and Tatiana is between at 2-3. and Andrew is a 4 in most shirts and shorts. Hopefully, when this posts, I will be able to post pics as well. I’ve done most of the snapping and most are in our room. Maybe in Bogota, we will be able to do more touring in Colombia and we can give you pics of the area as well.

Day Four Along the Journey

It’s Thursday! We first met our children on Monday…it still does not seem real. As I type this note, they are all sleeping strown across the beds from time to time you may hear a whimper or funny noise from Tatiana…

Yesterday, we went to a few stores to get Tatiana some capris and the boys some more camisas. The longer we carried them the heavier they became so Ben and I decided to buy a stroller, but Ben did not want to buy just one but two…so, Diego and Tatiana rode while Andrew pushed or assisted Ben in pushing. Diego went to sleep immediately.

We are seeing more of their own personality and character. Diego is more than we imagined…he is absolutely hilarious! He is very fun and has a funny chuckle! Sometimes, he is left out of things by the other siblings because maybe he doesn’t understand or he is younger. He sometimes becomes aggressive trying to get their attention or your attention. The children like to hug and kiss; Diego hugs and bites trying to blow and make funny noises on your face!!! And as the report indicated, he loves to eat- anything from crayons to crackers to mango juice to water-- anything.

(Funny side note: Yesterday, Ben was trying to warm his soup. Ben was really hungry and Diego, initially did not want to eat the soup-wanting his toy; Ben began eating the soup and coercing Diego with “Oh, this is so good!” As he continued to eat…finally Diego began eating. The interpreter joined us later and told Ben and I the special for the day was the soup. The soup was made of cow tail! The interpreter, his wife, Ben and I laughed hysterically. Ben said, “No Mas!!!” Here, the interpreter explained they eat different parts of the cow such as the tongue and tail…I suppose they do that in the states, as well, we just have never…but now Ben can say he has!)

Tatiana is warming up to us. She is beginning to trust us more. She and Andrew are really close and conversate amongst themselves often. When any of the children are corrected by Ben or me, she watches closely. When I take Diego to the bathroom, she usually comes by and says “Diego, chi-chi or tu-tu?” She is picky about what she wants to wear, too. Most of the clothing we brought here were 3-4s. Tatiana is a 2-3. We had to buy more clothing last night. She is our Colombian Princess! She loves to have her hair combed and look in the mirror. She likes her purse with all the fru-fru stuff (idea off the CHI yahoo group).
Andrew, my Colombian Prince…precious child. He is catching more phrases. They can all say Hallelujah (Diego has some difficulty still); Andrew tries to say, “I love you” and his name –“An-doo”—“Woo” Andrew is very smart! He picks up quickly. He is counting 1-10 in both English and Spanish. I believe that his schooling must have taught him. He is a great colorer, if that’s a word! He yearns for attention. And gives his Mami and Papi lots of hugs and kisses! He is very affectionate toward his siblings, too. Likes to dress nicely and always tucks in his shirt. He likes socks that are “mid-calf” vs. the white golf socks we brought. He is much fun, also.

All the children love to see pictures of themselves and take pictures. They also love their sippy cups (April M’s Idea!) They love to vamos outside of the hotel room! We’ve only went swimming once. The pool is not heated and very “frio” and Tatiana and Diego seem to have some congestion problems and a slight cough. We have given them some cough and cold Tylenol. So, we occupied our time with Dora, Diego, the Incredibles, Coloring, Legos, Beach Ball (which I highly recommend to other families), feeding times, and fun “Pounce on Papi” times…and while Papi has them occupied, I try to go behind them picking up crayons (they do not like any broken crayons?), trash, etc.
ICBF is supposed to come visit again. They have not been here yet. Maybe today? We meet with the lawyer to sign some papers to sign power of attorney or representation this morning at 9. We have been invited to go to lunch with the interpreter and his family at their house. Then Carlos, our interpreter, said he will take us to the park so the children can run and play around 4 today! (Yea!) Tomorrow, we sign the official paperwork stating that Diego, Tatiana, and Andrew are officially our children! We have lots of pics and hope to be able to post when able. They are so precious! Well, I must get out clothing and prepare for their showers; it’s funny how time goes by so quickly now when you have three little ones to dress!!!!

6.17.2007

What was Gotcha day like?

...a day of mixed emotions...for both us and the children. We met the children today and signed commitment forms that pledged we would do our very best to care for the children as best we could and give them all the mental, physical, and emotional support they each needed. Making this commitment was easy verbally, but now considering the weight of this can almost be overwhelming and scary...another myriad of emotions.


It seems surreal. Something I’ve waited for, dreamed of…pinch me! Andrew came in and hugged and kissed Ben saying, “Mi Papa, Mi Papa!” Then I got a big hug and kiss with a “Mi Mama, Mi Mama!” Oh, the precious kisses of a child…Tatiana was a bit uncertain of what was going on. Once we went to the market, she began to call us “Mami y Papi;” She likes to take pictures, and she is very “Princess”---! In Florencia, we are having difficulty with computer access as the hotel staff speak no English and we speak poco espaniole. Diego is just as we expected! He is a little Benjamin as both our interpretor and lawyer have nicknamed him.

What is really neat is that earlier today when one of us, Ben or me, would leave the room the children would quickly put on their shoes and try to leave the room and sometimes would to catch the parent! They would say something in Spanish and then emphatically "Mi, Mama" or "Mi, Papa!"

They are very active children. We were told we may be in Florencia until the middle of next week. For the most part we will stay at the hotel. So, please pray for us. There is not much room for the children to run and play. No outside area to run in. Currently, we’ve allowed them to “bounce” some may refer to it as “jump” on the bed; however, we know if we go back to the hotel we stayed at previously in Bogota, that won’t be allowed! But there’s not a lot to do…we got play doh, dvds, they love the photo album, cars, and Tatiana loves her lip gloss. Andrew was very upset when Tatiana’s shoes fit and his did not. Diego is actually in the last stages of potty training…still wears a diaper but gives you the verbal and physical cues…I didn’t catch it earlier at our first lunch together…and well, we had our first “accident.” But now armed with diapers and wipes, we are good to go…and the catch phrases are—“Chi, Chi” or “Tu, Tu”…We’ve also went to the pool, and Andrew loves it…the water is cold here. No hot water or heated pool! He jumped around and dove in…it was fun.
One last happy…or maybe a few more…Andrew is counting in both Spanish and English. He recognizes and recalls family photos. We tried to read a bible devotional and pray with them…and it seemed to fail miserably; Ben said that the only ones listening were me and him…but later we sang the song “Hallelujah…Hallelujah”---ya know the song, that is really repetitive but calming and reassuring …well Andrew was the first to say it…How-day-du-ja and even when we weren’t singing anymore, we heard him saying it…Tatiana also began singing it as well. Diego verbalized something like “How-lay”---so a big Thank you, Jesus! How awesome it is to know that God has entrusted me and Ben with these Jewels. I love them so much and yet to know them…. They are so precious. Hallelujah…!

Well, Ben is passed out and it’s only 9:30!!! He’s snoring; so, I know he’s beat! Continue to pray for our safety and that there are no kinks in the adoption process, that the children continue to bond with us, that the airplane ride home will be smooth, as well….

We love you all…thanks!

¡GOTCHA DAY!


June 4, 2007


WORDS FROM PAPI:



This day doesn't seem real! Just nine short months ago your Mami and I began this awesome journey! When you walked into the room with your arms wide open I didn't know if I should cry or shout for joy. One day, you will understand what happened when that moment came true for me. All three of you are a gift from God. I cannot express how deeply I love you and I just met you! My only prayer for today is that I become the best father that I can be and that my effort to love you and support you will always be enough. Today, I will ask God to bless each of you in a special way. My hope is that you will grow up knowing that I love you and that Jesus loves you. I cannot take away the pain that you have had in your life or can I protect you from all the pain to come, but Jesus Christ will always protect you and love you with a love that only come from himi. On this day, "Gotcha Day," I pray that you will grow up healthy, wise, and with the fear of the Lord Jesus. Jesus will never let you down! I love you, Papi.

Apologies Extended

Our apologies are extended to all who attempted to follow the blog when we began our adventure to Colombia on June 2nd...We flew into Bogota and the very next day Florencia. We did not have computer access while in Florencia for eleven long days...Ben and I did keep some thoughts written down from time to time and those will be posted in the following posts.
It has been an adventure, and we are so very grateful for the prayers and support extended to our family during this time. God bless!
(I am now experiencing difficulty with my laptop, so I am not able to download photos; so, I will post them when we get home...but the children are every part of the word beautiful, and Diego is the character that we supposed!!!!)

6.15.2007

Jesus Take the Wheel...

Carrie Underwood´s song Jesus Take the Wheel rang thru my mind as we hit turbulence in the flights to Colombia...but all in all, it wasn´t too bad; I think Ben´s nerves were actually worse than mine! We had a flight delay over 2 hours and put us in Bogota right before midnight...

On Saturday, we awoke in the hotel, Refugio, and met two other Christian CHI families! It was an awesome opportunity to share stories...one family had also adopted a sibling group of three and was able to share some helpful tips and insights to things we had to look forward too...

On Sunday, we flew to Florencia. It was nothing like I expected. I was expecting the worst...I was expecting to be scared...I really did not feel fearful at all...I was not intimidated by the soldiers, the surroundings or anything...I believe I had the peace of God, and maybe he hid my eyes from the things that may have been more dangerous and would have frightened me...

We met our lawyer and interpreter who were great throughout the whole process...

More to come later...