Post Adoption Questions!

Please leave any post adoption questions you might have whether you are reading this and are from the same adoption agency or country that we are. I am busily compiling a list of questions to our former Colombia Program Director. Would appreciate any submissions. I will compile the list and forward to her. She will be at the CHI Agency Reunion where she will have time to answer some of these. If you are interested, post a comment and I will post Julie's responses on the blog when we return from the reunion. The reunion is July 10th!

Here is what we have so far:

Adoption Updates: We’ve always wondered about sending an update with pictures to Seth's foster mother. I don't think actual contact is allowed, but she had him for 9 months (since he was 1 day old!) and I'd love for her to see how he's doing now. And I'd love to hear more from her about what he was like as a tiny baby.

Is there a way to do this? Has it been done before?


Feelings of rejection: Now, at a young age it doesn’t seem to bother the children, but as they get older, I am afraid they will have some issues with being “given away” by their birth parents. What are some things you have seen in children who were adopted at a younger age and then questioned their adoption later? What are challenges/suggestions in how to deal with this, even though it may be individual…

Eating: Diego initially would scarf his food down. Now, it appears he eats normally, not hurriedly, nor is he overeating. Our concern is now that Diego seems to have slowed down, Andrew’s eating concerns us. He eats so fast sometimes that he chokes. He’s the first to finish, first to ask for seconds and sometimes more. He is always asking us when it is time to eat or telling us what he wants to eat. Is this common? Is it common for it to begin two years after the child has been adopted?

Networking: How important do you feel it is for our children to network with other children adopted from Colombia?

The Adoption Story: When the children fantasize about their story, do you correct them?


Info on brain training: Please tell us all more.


Siblings in Colombia: Is there a way to inquire if our kids have siblings in care who are younger and maybe we have not been contacted, yet?