"your an idiot. you cant even take care of these kids and your mom helps out more than most would. you should def not adopt anymore kids"
I am just wondering WHO YOU ARE??? What a strong statement to make!
Certainly everyone can have their own opinion. Just for the record, Mr. or Mrs. Anonymous, to adopt a child or group of children through an agency, you must go through a series of meetings with a Licensed Social Worker or Counselor, have a thorough psych exam, not to mention countless other criteria that must be met. And, we passed all of that! So, I guess we ARE capable of bringing these children up... and what about you Mr. or Mrs. Anonymous?
I am so very blessed by my mother's help with the children. Again, I say I AM blessed! She is much like our own live in Nanny! There definitely is only ONE Beamie! And we got her! And we're blessed! I can't answer to what "most" moms would do... I am guessing that your mom, Mr. or Mrs. Anonymous, doesn't help you out. That is terribly unfortunate! I believe that God has raised a support group around us, my husband and I, to help us raise up these children in the fear and admonition of the Lord. I believe that God's word says to take care of the widow and orphan. I believe when we are obedient to God's Word, He will provide means to carry it out. I believe God has entrusted these children to us... to care and love and teach them about Him. Does that mean we will always make the best decision? Probably not. Does that mean they won't make mistakes? Probably not.
Life is a journey. We will all, including YOU, Mr. or Mrs. Anonymous, experience bumps in the road, detours along the way... We may even find ourselves in a rut at times. Parenting is an adventure on that journey!
We certainly have our moments! I don't think we are doing such a terrible job at this parenting thing, and I didn't know anyone was passing out stars! At any rate, our children make choices. Choices, we as parents, may not agree with, or choose for them. I did not choose or desire for my child to hit another student. That doesn't mean I am a "bad" parent, or he is a "bad" child. It was just an incident. I simply made a blog entry to solicit ideas on how other parents used creative correction with their child concerning hitting.
Just for you or any other ANONYMOUS Commenter: if you didn't know, those in the adoption community blog. We blog to share our story and encourage one another in whatever phase of adoption we may be journeying thru. Let me repeat that in case you missed it! Not I, nor any of my other bloggin' sisters need your negative thoughts/comments. This is MY blog about MY family, to some we may be a family comprised of idiots, to others I hope we are regarded as a God-fearing, loving, and compassionate family. And that's okay whatever they think! We are accountable to God only, and thankfully His mercies are new every morning! So, can the name-calling, Mr. or Mrs. Anonymous, and reveal yourself or go make your own blog. It can be cathartic!
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Well said, sister! :)
WOW! That was very well said lady. I think everyone should have to go through as stringent of a qualification process to become parents as you & Ben did. It would help weed out some of the whackadoos :)
You go girl! Nuff said!
You don't need anyone's approval to follow His plan. Our hearts are with you.
Great post. Take it to 'em!
Amen to ALL of the above!
That person is obviously miserable. Keep up the good work!
It never ceases to amaze me how awful people can be when they can't be held accountable for what they say.
Seriously? To go off on someone because their kid is going through a phase? Don't all kids do this? I guess this person's kids are perfect. Never did anything to anyone or talked back or misbehaved. Whatever!
There are times I wish we had more family around to help...and we only have 1 child. But they are here now so I am taking advantage!
Hi Wendi! It has been a while since I've caught up on your blog - and I was sad to see that you were attacked by Mr. or Ms. Anonymous Commenter! You know, our son got in trouble last week for hitting someone at school. It was a surprise, but I don't think it was a reflection on our parenting abilities - just as your son's difficulties in school are not a reflection on yours! Kids, just like adults, go through times in life of 'figuring things out'.
I find such relief in being able to read the posts of adoptive moms such as yourself that confirms that this is 'life as normal' - so keep posting & don't let Mr. or Ms. Anonymous deter you!
PS - Merry Christmas!
Holly
PS - I'll post again on my blog soon w/lots of pics! :)
Very well said! I'm sorry that this was left on your blog. To me, it means that you are following the will of God and the enemy is trying to stop you! Satan hates that you are raising God-fearing, God-loving children and he will use anyone to help stop that! Keep your eyes on Him! God has made us a community for a reason - we need each other!! Much love from Nashville!!
Jennifer
Wendi,
It's a shame others feel compelled to criticize in such a rude fashion, although I'm so glad you addressed the anonymous post with such dignity. Keep your faith strong and rise up! You inspire so many with your blog posts detailing your daily interactions with your lovely family! I've got your back, sista! Sending love this Christmas season from the Lone Star State!
Wow, Wendi, way to go! It has been a couple days since I read anyone's blogs...yours just happened to be the first I looked at, and I was shocked to say the least! Whoever this person is...they have a lot of gull! You guys are indeed wonderful parents! May you see God clearly at work in your childrens' lives through the hills and valleys that you are on together. Hang in there sister!
Way to fight back, Wendi! The adoption sisters are with you and support you. God has led you to being an awesome mom. To the ANONYMOUS person who wrote with such persecution and judgement, may God bless you!
Traci
Hey Wendi. Everyone's support is right on. Don't forget that our blogs are open to everyone and there is an equally good chance that the comment was left by a teenager or other not quite adult that was looking to ruffle a few feathers just because... (take it from a teacher :) )
it dosen't take many postings of yours to see how passionate you are about your kidos and God. While I support and agree with the fact you addressed the commenter, don't stress too much. We truely have no way of knowing who said it and what their true intentions were in the comment. Attention is a powerful motivator for the human race. One small comment changed one post's attention from you amazing family & faith to them... Delete the comment and keep on going. God surrounds us with a support group that he uses to guide us. Those are the voices to take in consideration. As Jen commented and you know it is God's approval we desire :)
Wendi--everyone else has said it well...but we support you and your family. Adam and I have four little Colombians of our own, and the people that really care about us don't dare comment on our parenting. They know that they have NO idea what it is like!!! I am sure the same is true for your family.
My mom was with us for three weeks in Colombia, and I know for a fact we could not have done it without her. If I could convince her and my dad to move to our house, I would take her help in a heartbeat. And my kids would be stronger for it.
Maybe I would feel better if I said, "what an idiot!" But then again, that wouldn't be very Christlike, would it? :) Instead, I think I will post on our adoption blog in support or our Colombian Adoption Community.
Merry Christmas--Rachel McCracken
PS--it took our six year old two months to get the "A" button down in the bowling game. She is still pretty terrible at it. The seven and eight year old are now fairly proficient at Tennis. Regardless, they beg to play it every day. Too bad we are those mean parents who only bring it out once a week.
Hi Wendi, Just wanted to say you handled that very well. Personally, I would bow to anyone who could go from zero to three children overnight. This is someone who doesn't understand that children thrive when surrounded by the love of a community of family. Never feel guilty, take whatever help family offers, it makes you a better mom.
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